By Ellie & Elena Patrick
Back in November, we went through a messy breakup with a partner we were very close to. There were a lot of factors that contributed to it, and now they want nothing to do with us. Even though we haven't spent time with them since Samhain, we could still feel their presence weighing on us, especially in our apartment (they didn't live with us, but spent a lot of time here).
While the wounds are starting to heal with time and therapy, and we're working on filling the void with other friends, we've also been planning some magical workings to sever what remaining connections we have. They were such a huge part of our life for most of 2024, and I think we had some degree of psychic link, so it'll take magic to break that.
We've been working on crafting a spell for a while now to help bring closure. Because of how the breakup played out, there ended up being a lot that we didn't get a chance to say, and that's been rattling around in our head for awhile. What we're planning is to write a letter with everything that we wished we could have said, and burn it at a place of power, along with a strand of their hair, which will serve as a first degree taglock (an object used to target a spell; first degree refers to it being from the target's body). The idea is the take everything I want to say and release it into the cosmos, and the taglock should help the message reach them without them knowing. Still need to do a bit of research to figure out timing for the spell, but the procedure should be all set. I'll update this once we've done the spell.
We also found a simple traditional banishing spell recently, which we used to clear their lingering presence from the apartment. For this spell, take a handful of sea salt in your dominant hand. Open your front door (or a door that leads outside; I used my balcony, since my front door opens into a hallway) with your other hand. With contempt, call out the full name of the person being banished, and cast the salt away from you. Close and lock the door and chant the following:
S A T O R
A R E P O
T E N E T
O P E R A
R O T A S
(This is the Sator Square, which I'll probably discuss in more detail another time.)
As soon as I finished the spell, I could feel the weight of their presence lifting. It's been almost two hours since I did the spell, and I still feel a lot better than I did before casting the spell.
Now that I've banished them, and once I gain closure, we still need to sever the psychic link. I've seen some thread cutting spells for this purpose, but I still need to figure out what specifically I'm going to do for that. Again, I'll update this as I figure that out.